When a guy is first chasing you, he might be all over you, but as time goes by, it’s hard to find a guy who still treats you like he did at the beginning.
There are guys who are super enthusiastic at first but disappear later. It’s actually because of this psychology.
Yang Qin and her boyfriend met on social media because they shared many common interests, and they quickly became friends. After getting to know each other, they quickly established a romantic relationship.
After they started dating, they decided to live together. Before a year was up, Yang Qin discovered she was pregnant.
At that time, she wanted to share the news with her boyfriend right away.
But instead of being happy, he disappeared.
Yang Qin was frantic, couldn’t find her boyfriend, and was worried sick. Finally, through a friend, she got in touch with him, only to find out he had a girlfriend all along, and he was only pursuing her out of temporary loneliness. Now that the novelty had worn off, he didn’t want to take responsibility for Yang Qin.
In real life, women who have faced similar situations are not uncommon. Guys who are enthusiastic at first but disappear later are often because of this: novelty.
Novelty Isn’t Love
How do you understand love? Each person might have their own answer, but what I want to say is that true love makes you feel happy. Novelty doesn’t mean love. When someone loves you because of novelty, they’ll also leave you because of novelty.
On the road of emotions, we’ll encounter all sorts of people. Some might approach you because they love you, while others do so for their own purposes. Love isn’t something you can easily say out loud. When someone says they love you, they might not really mean it.
Yu Guangzhong once said, “Loving someone is unconditional.”
However, when someone doesn’t love you, they’ll come up with all sorts of excuses. Emotions are like that. When someone approaches you because of novelty, they’ll leave you because of novelty.
Sweet Nothings Can’t Replace Anything
Women all love sweet talk, and that’s undeniable. But as women, we must understand that when a guy only talks but doesn’t act, even if he says the most romantic words, he’ll still hurt you in the end.
What you can’t get is always in turmoil. When a guy hasn’t gotten you, he can promise you anything. Women are often moved by these empty, low-cost promises, which are actually a guy’s trap for you.
When a guy gives you too many unrealistic promises, it represents his attitude toward you. You should learn to stay away from such guys early on.
A guy’s sweet talk means nothing. Only when he’s willing to take concrete actions for you can it represent his love for you. If he can’t even do that, then his words are meaningless.
Love That Comes Fast Also Goes Fast
Lin Huiyin once said, “Adult love is about not getting too close.” In real life, this sentence isn’t wrong. If love comes too fast, it’ll also be lost easily.
True love is about gradual development. If someone only says they love you, you don’t need to take it to heart. When a guy truly likes a girl, he won’t get tired of her. He wants to protect her for life, so even if it’s tiring, he’ll be willing to persevere.
The heart is the most precious thing. If you give it to the right person, it’s priceless. If you give it to the wrong person, it’s worthless. If you take the wrong path, remember to turn back. If you love the wrong person, learn to let go.
Han Han once said, “Liking is indulging, but love is self-control.”
In real life, each of us has a different understanding of love. But I want to say that if you can’t even get basic respect in a relationship, then even if you’ve started dating, your emotions won’t last long.
Emotions aren’t a game. When someone truly likes you, they’ll take you seriously. If they’re only trying to satisfy their desires, then you don’t need to take their emotions seriously.
Guys who are too enthusiastic at first will easily fall in love with you, but they’ll also easily leave you. True love is about gradual development. If you don’t understand this principle, you’ll get hurt in love.