Almost every relationship, no one wants to end, unless they didn’t love each other properly from the beginning, and they were just together for various reasons.
Two people in love should be filled with good intentions, to give each other the best outcome.
But life is full of ups and downs, sometimes love is not what you expect. Maybe you’re deeply in love, but he’s already gone astray. Love and not love, if it’s not mutual, it’s hard to achieve what you want.
More than four years later, Chen Xiang suddenly dug up the past, bringing up the old story with Mao Xiaotong. He said he was always sincere to Mao Xiaotong, and he always took the relationship seriously.
He thought he could grow old with Mao Xiaotong, but because of Mao Xiaotong’s statement, he was caught in an embarrassing public opinion whirlpool for a long time, and he was overwhelmed by online violence.
When I saw this news, I was indifferent to Chen Xiang, but suddenly I became annoyed.
It’s been four years, both parties have already gone through the toughest times, and now it’s all calm, why bring up the old wounds again?
Is it hype? Or is it to suppress the other party? Or something else?
I don’t know for sure, but this kind of behavior just doesn’t feel right. If it hadn’t been long since the incident happened, and you don’t want to be wronged, and you want to clear your name, it’s understandable.
However, it’s been so long since it happened, why bring it up again? Even if everything you say is true, why didn’t you bring it up earlier? If you’ve tolerated it for so many years, why not just let it go?
After thinking it over, it just doesn’t seem right for an ex to do this.
People who have truly loved won’t badmouth you after a breakup.
Because, hatred will only drag you into the abyss. It’s not that you don’t mind hurting them, it’s just that you have limited energy and time, and you can do more things you like.
There’s no need to dwell on the past, and be unable to let go.
Be generous when you say goodbye, those grievances and sadness won’t bully you anymore, and the things you care about won’t torture you again.
If you’ve loved, don’t say you regret it, after all, you’ve loved deeply.
In the end, it doesn’t matter who wronged who, it just means that love can’t go on anymore. So, say goodbye clearly, forget each other in the wind and rain, and don’t bring it up again.
This is probably the best ending.
Compared to that, it’s really unnecessary to keep bringing up your ex and badmouthing them, or to find fault with them.
When you’re in love, if you’ve loved hard, don’t regret it. After all, you’ve laughed brightly in those old days, and you’ve truly been intoxicated by their every move and word.
As for why you couldn’t go on later, you can only say that your fate has run out, or that you haven’t got the skills or ability to manage it.
This may be on both sides, or it may be on one side. You’ve tried, you’ve struggled, but you can’t help it, that’s enough.
When a relationship has to end, it’s useless to hold on. If the heart isn’t there, what’s the use of an empty shell?
So, when he has to leave, you might as well face it bravely, try to smile faintly, and tell yourself, “It’s nothing.”
Because tomorrow is a new day, the sun will rise as usual, and life will go on as usual.
No one’s life will stop because of someone else’s departure. If you can’t keep them, let them go.
It’s just that sometimes when you think about it again, you might feel a little uneasy, but you have to learn to throw away the past that makes you uncomfortable, treat it like garbage, and throw it all away.
Don’t let those bad emotions control your thoughts. Remember, dwelling on the pain will only torture your mind, and do nothing else.
Just keep the good memories. When you can be open-minded about everything you’ve been through, you can overcome yourself, walk out of the shadows, and be reborn.
If you always remember the bad things about others, or the hurt they’ve caused you, and you want to slander them or stir up trouble from time to time, in the end, you’re only making things difficult for yourself.
Actually, why bother? You can’t hurt others, but you’ll just look like a strange clown.
On the internet, I once saw a girl’s hysterical voice control. She said she had been in love with that man for years, and she gave him everything she could. To be with him, she even turned against her family.
But in the end, he waved his hand and said he didn’t love her anymore, and he started dating a girl who was better than her in terms of material things and other aspects.
The girl asked, how can I make him not have a good ending? How can I make his wedding not go smoothly? How can I make him never forget that he betrayed a girl?
There were many replies offering advice, and the methods were all kinds of, including some people suggesting going to the wedding and making a scene, or playing photos of themselves with the man… in short, they just don’t want him to get away with it.
The girl was silent for a while, and then she replied one by one. She said thank you for everyone’s advice. In the end, she went to the wedding, but it wasn’t like what others said, she didn’t make a scene.
When the groom and bride came to her table to toast, she suddenly felt at ease. Why bother? If you don’t love, you don’t love. It’s useless to hold on.
She was going to the wedding with the attitude of “either you die or I die,” but at that moment, she felt that she would be the one losing out if she sacrificed her future and reputation and made both of them miserable.
There’s no need to sacrifice your future for someone who doesn’t love you anymore.
So she just said softly, “Congratulations to you both!” At that moment, she clearly saw a flash in the groom’s eyes, maybe gratitude, maybe apology, but it no longer mattered to the girl.
Sometimes, letting go of the other person is actually letting go of yourself.
Don’t badmouth the person you once loved, and don’t badmouth the relationship you once had.
Those were experiences from your youthful years. In life, who hasn’t met the wrong person?
But when you were together, you were also excited for him, and you loved him deeply. When you’re not together anymore, you might be very sad, you might think he’s heartless, you might think he didn’t keep his promises to you…
But as time goes by, when you feel indifferent to all this, you can find a beautiful relationship that belongs to you.
If you keep holding onto the past and refuse to let go, then you will be hard-pressed to find true happiness in the future.