Sometimes, we want to express our inner thoughts, but we don’t want to be too direct. So we choose a half-true, half-false way, which is “joking.”
If the other person is interested, they’ll understand our thoughts. If not, just take it as a joke.
Freud said, “There is no such thing as a joke, all jokes have a serious component.”
Thinking about it carefully, this is often the case. On the surface, it’s a joke, but it’s actually the truest expression of our hearts.
Especially in love, when we fall in love with someone, if we keep hiding our love, we’ll only become more and more unwilling. The more you love someone, the more you want them to know, and then you hope to have this love.
But if we want to express it, we lose the courage to express it. We’re afraid that the other person will think we’re too casual and ruin our image. We’re also afraid of being rejected, because if that happens, we won’t even have the qualifications to like them anymore, and we’ll have to hide our love in the dark.
In this state of confusion, we can only choose a more implicit expression, which is to hint at the other person in some way and see their reaction. If the other person also has feelings, then this layer of paper can be broken. If the other person doesn’t feel anything, in order to avoid embarrassment, we can only hide it for now.
In love, women are more reserved than men. Even if they really like someone, they will endure for a longer time. If they’re really not willing to give up, women will also hint at men and observe their thoughts. Using “jokes” to test men is naturally a good way.
Men should know that women who like to joke with you in these three ways probably want you to hit on them. Don’t pretend you don’t understand.
“Anyway, we’re both single, let’s just make do”
Jokes, in our view, represent a kind of humor. A person who is very good at telling jokes will naturally be liked by everyone. After all, a person who can make people happy will definitely not have bad relationships.
But we should know that even if a person likes to tell jokes, not all the jokes they tell are just said casually. Perhaps some are their truest thoughts, but they’re too embarrassed to say them directly, so they use jokes.
Even if the other person doesn’t notice, the situation won’t be too embarrassing. It’s just a laugh.
Joel Weis said, “Humor is the seriousness that hides behind jokes.”
Sometimes, when a woman likes a man, she’ll use jokes to hint at the man. The woman will boldly say to the man, “Anyway, we’re both single, let’s just make do.”
When a woman says this, the man should understand that the woman is interested in you and hopes you’ll hit on her.
If you like her, you can use a half-joking way to express your thoughts. Of course, if you don’t like her, you can also reply with a joke, so that everyone won’t be too embarrassed.
“What kind of girls do you like? Not someone like me, right?”
Marx said, “True love, in my opinion, is shown in the lover’s attitude towards his idol, which is reserved, humble, even shy, and not in the free expression of passion and premature intimacy.”
If a woman truly loves a man, she will naturally try to leave a good impression on him. She won’t be too direct in front of him, lest he think she’s too casual.
At this time, the woman will choose to test the man from the side.
For example, the woman will deliberately joke with the man, “What kind of girls do you like? Not someone like me, right?”
Men should know that if a woman asks you this, she actually wants to know if you like her. With such a good opportunity, men should seize the chance to express your thoughts and let the woman understand.
“You’re so nice to me, are you chasing me?”
Women who like a man will naturally pay close attention to his every move.
When a woman encounters something, the man lends a helping hand. Perhaps when the man is very nice to the woman, she will be overjoyed and feel that the man must like her.
Of course, these are all the woman’s own thoughts. To understand the man’s thoughts, you still need to go through some testing.
For example, when the man is very nice to her, the woman will joke, “You’re so nice to me, are you chasing me?”
When a woman says this, she actually wants the man to “hit on” her and send her a love message.
Since the woman has asked this, whether it’s a joke or not, the man can take this opportunity to express his thoughts. Don’t miss the chance.
Li Tian wrote this sentence in “People Who Meet Will Meet Again”: “There are not so many coincidences in the world, they are all carefully planned to meet, and they are inch by inch to fall in love.”
In love, every coincidence is a careful design. Every joke is also the truest thought of the heart.
It’s just that many times, we don’t dare to express our thoughts too directly when we don’t know the other person’s thoughts. If it’s a long-time friend, we won’t break our friendship because of such thoughts, so we choose to use jokes to test the other person.
Actually, many times, it’s hard to say “I like you” without pretending to joke.
So, men should be clear that when a woman jokes with you like this, don’t think she’s just joking.