How Financial Insecurities Impact Women’s Lives
In the TV series, Jane appears to be glamorous, hardworking, and earns nearly $20,000 a month, but she hasn’t saved a penny.
Originally having little money, she spent half of her salary on renting a high-standard house for the so-called quality of life.
For a company reward cruise, she spent $6,000 on a new pair of shoes and swiped her credit card for over $10,000 to upgrade to first class.
Jane’s biggest dream is to find a handsome and wealthy man, but she never thought about why she, with everything she has now, should be chosen by a successful man.
Tony, financially free, immediately pointed out her “refined poverty” when he saw Jane taking selfies and noticed the shoe soles she had glued to prevent wear and tear.
Jane easily fell into Tony’s trap, revealing her true poverty beneath the fake refinement and her desire for money and material possessions.
Women, whether rich or poor, have obvious characteristics that cannot be hidden, no matter how they try to disguise them.
1 The Less Money, The More Fear of Being Called Poor
Jane broke up with her ex-boyfriend because he couldn’t give her the life she wanted. Working at a luxury goods store, she constantly faced extravagant customers, which inevitably impacted her psychologically.
She was determined to climb the social ladder, but her ex-boyfriend couldn’t make money, so she decided to break up with him.
On the cruise, when Tony judged that she “came up, found that she could only afford one meal, and had to go back to her ordinary cabin,” it ignited her inherent desire for strength.
So, she used credit card debt higher than her monthly income to upgrade her cabin, but then faced enormous repayment pressure.
She vehemently denied her social class, unrealistically saying, “I see the good here, so I want to stay here.”
But the reality is that achieving a life reversal is not that easy.
Working in a luxury goods store, the saleswoman often forgets her own identity over time.
In fact, we have all experienced such scenes. When poor people pass by luxury goods counters, the saleswoman looks down on them.
But in reality, everyone is just ordinary people. Selling luxury goods does not elevate a person’s status. There’s no need to show off or desperately distance oneself from people of the same social class.
The more one does this, the easier it is to become a plaything in the eyes of the rich. Just like Jane, when Gu Jia said that if it weren’t for Tony achieving financial freedom, she probably wouldn’t have given him a second look.
Jane once became angry and embarrassed, but it was only because Gu Jia bluntly expressed her thoughts, which she couldn’t accept.
But in reality, it’s just self-deception.
The poorer one is, the more afraid of being called poor. The more one wants to climb the social ladder, the more afraid of being exposed.
2 The Less Money, The More Concern About Others’ Opinions
A distant cousin and her husband work in an ordinary unit, and they raise a child. According to the living standards of a small town, they live a relatively decent life.
However, the cousin always wants to live a step above others, but her capabilities are limited, and her income is just a fixed salary.
Every time she buys something, she can haggle several times, but luckily the store clerks have enough patience not to blacklist her.
When going out to a gathering or visiting relatives, the closet is full of clothes, and she always complains that she has nothing to wear, fearing that others will look down on her.
She was told that there’s no need to live so exhausted, as long as she dresses comfortably. Furthermore, there are so many young, unmarried, and beautiful girls; who would pay attention to what an old lady like her wears.
There are often women in life who want others to notice what they eat, wear, or buy, hoping to hear others’ opinions.
Such people are actually very insecure inside, living according to others’ opinions, believing that others dictate their lives.
These people are often lacking, not only materially, but also spiritually.
Perhaps they have been neglected throughout their upbringing and have faced too many material limitations, so they desperately seek others’ approval, ending up living a constricted life.
3 Seeking a Wealthy Boyfriend
Jane once said, “I need a man who can stand in front of me and lead me, not someone who follows behind me and caters to my every need.”
When she said this, she was not at all an independent woman, but a woman filled with material desires.
So, she degraded into one of Tony’s playthings, just as Zweig said, “She knew the price of all the gifts fate had already secretly marked.”
As a woman approaching 30, Jane was clearly too naive, but her character led her to this point.
She has been working in Shanghai for 8 years but is unwilling to return to her hometown because she believes that her looks can be a ticket to enter wealthy circles. But what the world lacks the least is young beauties.
The wealthy are not fools, why would they marry a woman with fake refinement? Tony and others have long seen through women like Jane, understanding their thoughts very clearly.
A woman’s intent to find a wealthy boyfriend due to lack of money is fundamentally wrong. Even if they come together, it may not necessarily lead to happiness.
Money is important for everyone.
But a wise person loves money with integrity, which is what truly makes one feel secure.
Living with little money is undoubtedly difficult, but pretending to be wealthy only deceives oneself, what does it matter to others? Harsh as it may sound, few people care about whether your life is good or bad.
Those who love you will not despise your poverty and will be willing to work with you to overcome it. Those who do not love you will take advantage of your desire for money and do things that will make you regret for life.
As a woman, it’s okay to be poor, but it’s important to have dignity in poverty.
If you have no money, you should strive to attain the life you desire through your own efforts. Relying on a man, even if successful, living at the mercy of others’ opinions is not a good life.
Today he loves you, tomorrow he may disdain you. Ultimately, you alone can walk your life’s path.