There’s a saying: “Marriage is a cage, people outside want to get in, people inside want to get out.”
People feel this way because marriage is full of ups and downs, and we have to deal with it all ourselves.
In real life, it’s not just women who are afraid of divorce. Men are sometimes afraid too. Here are some reasons why men are afraid of divorce.
26-Year-Old John
I’ve been married to my wife for three years. Our kid is one year old now. She’s been really sensitive since having the baby, and we’ve been fighting a lot because of it.
She keeps talking about getting a divorce, and I’m really stressed about it. The kid is so young, and I’m really scared of divorce because I don’t want to make the kid deal with the responsibility of grown-up problems.
Right now, all I can do is talk to her and try to work things out. I think marriage is a responsibility. Once you choose to get married, you should work on the relationship. You don’t want to end up with a broken family. That’s not what I want.
30-Year-Old David
I actually got divorced once before. I was impulsive, and I lost the woman who loved me.
After the divorce, I realized she put so much into our family. I met other people, but none of them were as kind and caring as she was.
It took a lot of effort, but I finally convinced her to get back together.
She agreed to remarry, but it was mostly for the kid’s sake.
I know I messed up, so I’m trying to make things right. I was young and dumb, and I treated marriage like a game. When you get older, you realize how lucky you are to have someone who wants to be with you.
Never throw away someone who wants to be by your side for something new.
I hope you learn from my mistakes. I hope all men take responsibility. Little arguments are normal in marriage, but you need to learn to forgive each other.
I made a big mistake when I was young, so now all I can do is try to be a good husband and dad.
I think family happiness is the most important thing, so I’m going to work on our relationship.
45-Year-Old Steve
My wife and I have been married for 20 years. I had nothing when she married me.
Her family didn’t like us together, but she still married me.
After we got married, we started a business together. Life got better and better. But I was so busy with work that I didn’t pay much attention to our family. My wife started complaining more and more.
Because I was so focused on work, I stopped taking responsibility for our family. I was always out socializing, and I didn’t even think about what was happening at home. My wife took care of everything.
I know I’ve been a terrible husband. She worked so hard with me. She got up early and stayed up late to help me deliver goods. I haven’t even gotten her a decent gift in all these years.
We had a big fight about my socializing.
I thought a man should focus on his career, and the woman should take care of the house. But that was the stupidest thing I could have thought.
One day, she finally asked for a divorce. I was surprised. I thought I wasn’t the one in the wrong.
But when she put the divorce papers in front of me, I regretted everything.
Thinking back on all the good times we had, I understood why she was unhappy.
I finally understood her pain. I stopped working so hard, and I started spending more time with her. We started getting along better.
She gave me a son and a daughter. She’s put so much into this family. I don’t want to get divorced.
Having her by my side makes me feel safe.
Our kids are in college now, and we don’t have to worry about them as much.
Every year, I take her on vacation. I hope we can be happy forever.
Shakespeare once said, “A hasty marriage seldom proves well.”
Marriage is important to all of us. It’s the sweetest burden.
Divorce hurts both spouses, and it also hurts innocent children. I hope everyone treats marriage seriously. If you choose to love someone, you need to learn to make the relationship work. That’s how you can grow old together.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment. When you’re dealing with marriage, be rational. That’s how you can make your love last.