In terms of love, everyone has their own understanding.
Love is great in real life, but it’s easy to meet and hard to stay together.
True love also requires effort. Good love often needs these seven key elements. Let’s see how many of them you possess.
Care
Fromm once said: “Love is positive care for the life and growth of the loved one. Where there is a lack of this care, there is no love.”
In a relationship, caring for each other allows us to truly feel the love. If two people become the most familiar strangers, then love loses its essence.
Care is essential in love. When you understand how to care for and protect each other, your love can reach greater heights. Only when you learn to love someone, will they love you in return. Love is mutual—only when you learn to give, will the other person give back.
Commitment
Bulgarian ethicist Vasiliev once said in his “Theory of Love”: “The choice of a love object is the specific preference for one person among many familiar members of the opposite sex, idealizing the value of that person.
No one can deeply, selflessly, and passionately love two or three people at the same time.
This will inevitably lead to psychological turmoil, forcing one to make difficult choices and diluting the flow of emotions. Love first requires focusing on one person, requiring a harmonious and complete feeling.”
In our lifetime, we meet various people. Some can accompany us for a lifetime, while others are destined to pass by. In love, the most important thing is commitment. Only when you wholeheartedly love someone, can you wholeheartedly give and invest. Only then can your love feel more secure.
Commitment is the sincerity in a relationship. Only when you genuinely deeply love someone, can your love blossom. If you are indecisive, you will eventually lose the one you deeply love. Therefore, learning to commit is a quality in love. Only such a person can harvest more happiness.
Sacrifice
Do you need a reason to love someone? The answer is: no.
“Little Reunion” once said: “Only love without purpose is true.”
When you genuinely like someone, you will be willing to selflessly give to them, even willing to sacrifice yourself for them. This is a form of sacrificial love.
When you truly love someone, you become selfless because you desire their happiness more than anything, even if it means sacrificing yourself. This kind of love is worth cherishing.
Those who understand how to give in love often receive more in return.
Trust
Once the dam of trust breaks, problems will arise in the relationship.
Trust is the most fundamental aspect of a relationship. Only when you learn to trust each other, will your relationship become stronger.
Many people feel insecure in love because they lack trust in their partner’s actions. Over time, this lack of trust can shake the relationship. Therefore, learning to trust each other is a way of love.
Respect
Fromm said: “Respect means letting a person grow and develop according to their own rules and desires. Respect means no exploitation. It means letting the loved one grow and develop for their own purposes, not for my service.
If I love someone, I feel harmonious with them, but it is with them as their own selves, not as tools for my use.”
Even in an intimate relationship, you must learn to respect each other—not just in words, but more so in thoughts and actions.
When you truly love someone, you must learn to unconditionally support and understand them.
Learning to respect and protect them is the right way to love someone. Do not selfishly force them to do things they don’t want to do. Only when you give them full respect, can your love progress further.
Two people in love are different individuals, each with different thoughts and personalities. Learning to see things from their perspective, understanding each other correctly, and being tolerant are essential for a stable relationship.
Understanding isn’t difficult, what’s difficult is mutual understanding. When conflicts arise, both should try to see things from the other’s perspective. Many conflicts will then be easily resolved.
Appreciation
As the saying goes, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” When two people are together, it means they find each other attractive. Initially, due to the novelty, we may admire each other. But as time goes by, can you still appreciate each other as before? This is something to consider.
Learning to appreciate each other and discover each other’s strengths will take your love further. If you speak negatively in front of your partner every day, it will inevitably strain your relationship.
Admiration is the reason a relationship starts. Only when your partner can establish a strong image in your mind, will your love be sweeter.
Independence
Some people become clingy once they start a relationship, always together every day. In the honeymoon phase, it may not be bothersome, but as time passes and the relationship enters a routine, being glued together will suffocate the other person. Without independent space, such a relationship will eventually lead to disappointment.
Independence is a prerequisite for love. Maintaining individual independence while relying on each other is the best state for a relationship.
In real life, love may not be as perfect as we imagine, but as long as you approach it in the right way, your relationship will be more solid.