4 Mistaken Views on Love that 2/3 of Girls Don’t Know, Regret if You Don’t Read
Immature views on love are probably like this —
Not wanting to break up.
And not wanting self-improvement.
Then, we wait foolishly for time to pass, using every minute and second from the past to support how long we’ve been in love.
You should not break up, you should change for me.
Always thinking the one who wants to break up is the bad person, always feeling that changing is being wronged.
Overestimating the other’s ability, excessively yielding one’s own rights, and then blaming others for being irresponsible.
Yet many people still agree with such emotional views.
And most women, first imagine love as a way to cure their loneliness.
Finding a partner is mainly to pass the time, rather than to build a lasting relationship.
Going with the flow—everyone else has a boyfriend, so I should too.
This kind of view on love is wrong from the start.
Common mistaken views on love include:
- Over-romanticizing love
Modern women, when in love, often only consider the positive aspects.
They only think about how to enhance each other’s feelings, and make each other happy, without considering the impact of family, society, and other external factors.
They often care about the process of love and ignore the outcome, disconnecting love from marriage.
In a moment of impulse, they disregard the consequences and effects.
- Romanticizing love
Contemporary college students in love pursue emotional satisfaction, neglecting spiritual pursuits in the process of getting along with each other.
They focus on creating a so-called romantic feeling in the relationship, neglecting the spiritual aspect, turning love into mere material enjoyment, profaning its initial sanctity.
- Utilitarian love
In today’s fiercely competitive society, for college students, the pressure of employment is overwhelming.
This has led to many utilitarian relationships.
Many young women choose a boyfriend from a relatively wealthy family, seeing material wealth as the foundation of love, and marrying a rich man as a stepping stone to a comfortable life.
It’s fine to pursue a better life, but don’t let vanity take over.
- Moral indifference in love
Traditional morality has had a profound influence on women for a long time.
But with the influx of diverse ideologies, modern people are quickly accepting new concepts.
Open-mindedness, the liberation of women’s “sexuality,” and women’s marital issues have had a huge impact.
Under the influence of these new ideas, women are caught in a whirlpool of contradiction between reason and emotion.
The concept of sexuality gradually opens up, sometimes overlooking the consequences and morality.
Coupled with physiological and psychological reasons, this has led to curiosity about “sex” and bold experimentation.
But after the experiment, they often face embarrassment and endless regret.
All of the above are just mistaken interpretations of women’s views on love.
With the development of society, women’s values have become more diversified.
Negative factors in some women’s value concepts have affected their attitudes and behaviors towards life, leading to improper handling of love.
So what should we do?
I’ll tell you~
Solutions
Simplifying love
Don’t overthink it, as long as two people are together, forgetting that to be together for a long time, they must face various aspects of life, not just the love between the two.
Also, learn to communicate more in other aspects.
Family, future work location, these also need to be considered.
If you don’t consider them, there will be a day when you have to face them, and we will still have to go through it.
Idealizing love
Watching too many Korean dramas and reading too many novels has raised the general standards for a partner.
But in reality, such men are rare.
Once you choose to be together, as time passes and you become familiar with each other, you will eventually return to reality. Don’t fantasize too much about life.
Utilitarian love
Always thinking about how much I’ve given, so I should also get this much in return.
Although it is too absolute to link it with money, emotions are the same.
We love someone for no reason, willingly give to them, not to get something in return.
We give willingly, so don’t always think so much about what you’ll get. Just give, and you will receive.
Moral decline in love
As mentioned earlier, the improvement in human productivity has marginalized physical advantages, directly leading to two major social changes.
- The rise of effeminate culture.
- The rise of women.
More and more women are also imitating some trendy cultures.
The relationship between the sexes in love has become more and more open, resulting in more and more people of the same age who are not tolerant of this avant-garde thinking.
But you should know that the development of sexual culture is actually very slow.
Why do so many women have emotional problems?
Why are there so many backup partners in the world?
Why are there so many women of marriageable age who are still virgins?
How much of this do they know but are unwilling to admit or face?
As young people, we should also know what we should and shouldn’t do.
The formation of the correct view of love is crucial.
Women should strive to enhance their own cultivation, cultivate a sound personality, and become a charming woman.