There are a lot of things in the world that seem real, but aren’t. And there are a lot of things that seem fake, but are actually real.
“Fake can be real, and real can be fake. There’s no need for something to be there, and it can be there even if it shouldn’t be.”
When I was a kid, I didn’t understand what this meant. But as I grew up, I realized that a lot of things aren’t true just because people say they are. And something isn’t fake just because it’s hidden.
Sometimes in love, a guy can be really nice to you, but you find out later that he was just playing you.
Like one person said online:
“Last night, my boyfriend was sitting next to me, acting like everything was normal. He even told me he wanted to marry me. This morning, we didn’t fight or anything, everything was peaceful. But suddenly he broke up with me. Just like that, we were over.”
This person said they were really heartbroken after the breakup. They felt like it came out of nowhere. They were sad for a long time, and they felt like their relationship was a joke. They were the only one smiling.
Some guys seem really good to women, making them think that’s how love is. But sometimes it’s not. They’re just playing with you.
If a guy is really good to you, but he’s not willing to give you these three things, then he’s just playing you.
Caring
One of my friends’ boyfriends was pretty nice to her, but whenever she had a problem, he disappeared.
One time, my friend got a really bad stomach ache at like 2 am. She called 911 and went to the hospital. She felt really helpless, so she called her boyfriend and told him what was going on. He said he’d be at the hospital soon.
But he never came. Not until the next night.
Charles Dickens said:
“No one is worth your tears, and the one who is worth it won’t make you cry.”
My friend cried all day because of this. She said he didn’t care about her, and I think she’s right. If that happened to anyone, they would cry. Because he’s not worth your time anymore. You feel so wronged.
Some guys seem really nice to you, like my friend’s boyfriend. But when you have a problem, they don’t care about you.
Maybe you get sick and go to the hospital, like my friend did. And they don’t come see you. Or maybe you’re feeling down, and they disappear. That just means they were playing you. They don’t want to go deep into your heart or stay by your side.
So if a guy seems nice to you, but he doesn’t care about you, he’s probably not in love with you. He’s just playing you.
Companionship
The worst thing in life isn’t being alone. It’s being with someone and feeling even more lonely.
If a guy says he loves you, but he never spends time with you, you should know he doesn’t really love you. Or he doesn’t love you at all.
If you love someone, you can’t help but want to see them. No matter how far away they are, or how hard it is to get there, you just want to see them. So you’ll always go towards them.
A lot of love stories are really romantic. In the past, if people wanted to see someone they loved, they would ride in a carriage for a long time.
Now, if people want to see someone they love, they’ll make time, no matter how busy they are, to take a train for hours to see them.
Some people always say they love someone, but they never see them. Even when they have nothing to do, they find something to do instead of seeing the person they love. That just means they don’t love you that much.
Sanmao said:
“Companionship is the longest confession of love.”
If someone can’t give you companionship, then no matter how many sweet things they say to you, it’s probably not real. Because they don’t really love you, so everything is fake.
If someone can’t give you companionship, they probably don’t love you at all. They might just be using you as a backup. When they find someone better or someone they like more, they might just dump you.
Women should think about this from the other side. If you really love a guy, you’d feel like you haven’t seen him in forever if you haven’t seen him in a few days. Love goes both ways. If a guy really loves you, he’ll feel the same way.
Commitment
If you’re with someone, and you realize they can’t give you a commitment, then they don’t really love you.
Bishu Min said:
“One day you’ll realize a woman’s innocence is more valuable than her dowry or talent.”
A guy who really loves a woman will never let her reputation get hurt. If they’re together, or if they’ve been intimate, then he’ll give her a commitment and plan to spend their lives together.
But there are a lot of guys who seem really good to women. They do everything for them. But when the woman wants to meet the guy’s parents, he keeps putting it off.
Even though it seems like the woman is his girlfriend, he won’t tell anyone. He acts single in front of his friends, and he acts like he doesn’t want to get married in front of his parents.
So if you’re dating someone like that, you should be careful. He might just be playing you.
I used to date a guy. We bought matching rings, but he always took it off when we took pictures together.
One time, he was going home, and he put the ring on his index finger.
Even a small action like that can show if he’s committed to you. A guy who’s afraid of people seeing your ring doesn’t love you at all. He has other things on his mind, so he acts that way.
If a guy is really good to you, but he’s not willing to give you these three things, especially these three things, it means he’s just playing you.
The worst thing in life isn’t meeting a bad guy who hurts you and makes you not believe in love anymore. The worst thing is meeting a bad guy, not leaving him right away, and getting hurt really bad, but still hoping for the best.