Mrs. Chen, who recently got divorced, told her mother-in-law:
“I’ll take the car and the house, and I’ll take the kids too! I’ve endured you for so many years, and now it’s time for you to know my strength!”
Later, Mrs. Chen took her father-in-law and mother-in-law to court and got all the family assets. After that, she told others:
“I endured 8 years of marriage, and when I got divorced, my mother-in-law finally knew my strength.”
Although people around her knew she was very unhappy in her marriage, when Mrs. Chen did this, everyone thought she was too ruthless. In fact, sometimes families don’t need to go that far, especially considering the kids’ feelings.
Mrs. Chen said she had been doing all the household chores, including laundry and cooking, and even worked hard during her pregnancy. Thinking about it made her very sad, so she wanted to leave and get revenge.
Solve Family Problems in Time
People often talk about finding a middle ground, so many people think that family harmony is very important and that enduring for a while can bring peace. However, some women have very good temperaments, so they often endure and don’t express their dissatisfaction.
In fact, when problems arise in the family, it’s essential to solve them in time. If you don’t express your opinions, family members will think they’re doing the right thing, and you’ll become more and more unhappy.
A TV host once said:
“I’m sometimes afraid of people who keep all their resentment inside and then suddenly explode. They can make you feel helpless. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you’re unhappy, you can speak up, and I’ll stop making mistakes.”
This is especially true in family life. If you think your mother-in-law is doing something wrong, you should tell her. Don’t be afraid of a little conflict; sometimes you can use a gentle tone to say something strong.
A woman must understand that after getting married, she should prioritize family interests. If you’re always enduring and not expressing your true feelings to your family, but only complaining to friends, it won’t be effective. You need to communicate with your family to achieve results.
Don’t Be Overbearing, Mother-in-Law
As a mother-in-law, don’t be overbearing. There’s an old Chinese saying:
“Do things in moderation, don’t overdo it.”
So, as a mother-in-law, you should know how to handle relationships with your daughter-in-law. Don’t think that because your daughter-in-law has a good temperament, you can do whatever you want.
Remember that today’s women are different from those in the past. They have their own personalities and are more independent. They won’t always listen to their husbands or parents-in-law.
Protect Your Marriage, Husband
Emotional expert Zuo Yan once told a male guest:
“Don’t always think your wife is wrong or your mom is wrong. Sometimes, it’s you who’s wrong. As a husband, you should be the mediator between your mom and wife. When problems arise, you should intervene and not let your mom and wife’s emotions become stagnant.”
So, when problems arise in the relationship between your mom and wife, as a husband, you must protect your marriage. Don’t take sides or have a biased attitude towards your mom or wife. Instead, stand on the family’s side and mediate their relationship.
Sometimes, the relationship between your mom and wife can be difficult, but if you handle it well, your family will become better. Everyone in the family hopes for a harmonious family, so as a husband, you should prioritize family interests.
Be Cautious When Getting Married
When getting married, women should be cautious. If you don’t understand your partner’s family beforehand, you might suffer after marriage. Marriage isn’t just between two people; it’s between two families. You’ll need to integrate into your partner’s family, so it’s essential to know what kind of people your partner’s parents are.
Some women think they’re compatible with a man, so they get married, only to discover that their partner’s parents are difficult to get along with. This can lead to conflicts and even crisis in the marriage.
So, when getting married, women should also consider their partner’s parents’ personalities, as they will affect their future development.
In marriage, sometimes you need to endure, but sometimes you need to speak up. Family members should communicate well, and when problems arise, they should solve them in time. As the saying goes, “Take it one step at a time, and cherish every moment!”