“I’ve had two lucky things in my life: one is that time has finally consumed my love for you; the other is that I met you a long, long time ago.”
This sentence also reveals that people often get tired of old things and crave new ones, and emotions can also fade with time.
There are many stories of older men and younger women in life, and these people always feel that the other person is the right one when they first meet.
In the West, there was a famous painter named Rembrandt, who met a 19-year-old girl when he was 50. At that time, he said:
“When I met this girl, I finally knew what love was.”
Later, the two got together, but it didn’t last long, and they couldn’t resist the erosion of love over time.
My grandfather is already over 70 years old. When he was 50, my grandmother passed away. After 10 years, when he was 60, he married a 31-year-old woman.
At that time, many people advised:
“Don’t marry this woman; it’s not reliable.”
But my grandfather always thought he had found the right person and transferred all his assets to her name. Later, when my grandfather’s health declined, she left him. At that time, my grandfather not only had to endure physical pain but also the pain of longing.
He said:
“I didn’t realize until I was old that an older man and a younger woman is just a recipe for disaster.”
Although my grandfather is old, his feelings for that young woman were real. However, in the end, he was left to suffer the pain of longing and illness alone.
Many Things Are Too Late to Regret
Many things are regretted too late because, at the time, we were convinced and only realized later.
When someone loves another person, they often feel that the story of an older man and a younger woman can become a beautiful tale. In reality, it’s just because they love the other person, so they hold on to a lucky mentality.
Sometimes people also learn to deceive themselves in relationships, and there are many stories of older men and younger women. At the beginning, one side loves the other, but the other side may not be sincere.
When someone’s true heart is utilized by others, they may not even realize it. But one day, when the other person’s deceit is revealed, they are left heartbroken.
Sometimes it’s not that we want to believe others, but we want to believe the words of the person we love, just like my grandfather, who always trusted that woman. In the end, he was hurt and became a laughingstock among his neighbors. But the most important thing in my grandfather’s eyes is that woman.
Maybe some people don’t understand my grandfather, but only those who have loved before can understand my grandfather’s pain.
Many things are regretted too late, and by the time you realize the other person is a swindler, you’ve already been hurt badly.
Each Takes What They Need in Love, but How Much Is True?
There was a news story:
An 18-year-old model and a 62-year-old man got together, and after getting married, the model even had a child with the old man. Later, they got a marriage certificate.
However, after only four or five days, the old man discovered that things were not right.
But the old man didn’t care and continued to live with the model. Two months later, he discovered that his ID, property deed, and all the bank cards in the house were gone.
It turned out that the young woman had taken all the property and escaped abroad. If it were in the country, it would be relatively easy to catch someone, but it’s harder to catch someone who has escaped abroad.
Later, the old man cried in the street, saying:
“I’ve married a young woman, but I was sincere. I didn’t betray my marriage, and I didn’t play with emotions. I just met someone I liked, so I married her. I’ve donated money everywhere, and I didn’t do anything bad. Why did heaven treat me like this?”
Perhaps the old man thought the woman was young, and the woman thought the old man had money, so they each took what they needed and got together.
If a man marries an 18-year-old woman at 62, it’s often because the man is attracted to the woman’s beauty. Maybe the man didn’t betray his emotions and is a relatively honest person. However, the desire for beauty is universal.
Moreover, a man also has vanity, and having a very young woman by his side is a kind of face-saving.
Why did the girl want to marry this man? Maybe she had planned it long ago, and the marriage was just to satisfy her needs.
Each takes what they need in love, and in the end, it’s like a useless piece of paper. The marriage becomes an empty promise, and it can even bring unnecessary troubles.
People often pursue reality, thinking that marriages for love are unreliable. In fact, if someone is willing to do anything for reality, their love is even more unreliable.
You Utilize Others, but You’re Also Utilized by Others
Sometimes when you utilize others, you’re also utilized by others.
It’s like when someone marries another person, thinking they’ve gained a lot by marrying a young woman. In reality, the woman might have seen the benefits of marrying an older man.
Maybe you think you’ve done something, and others are still in the dark, but in fact, you’re also in the dark. So, it’s better to be honest and kind, and you’ll meet sincere people.
As the saying goes:
“Similar things gather together, and people of similar kinds group together.”
An insincere person will meet others who are also insincere. If someone is sincere in their relationships and friendships, most of the people around them will also be sincere. This kind of person will get what they deserve and find a beautiful love.
Maybe some people are very sincere in love, and their values are correct, but they still get hurt. This doesn’t mean they won’t find someone who treats them well. As long as you treat relationships sincerely, you’ll eventually meet someone who treats you well.
Those older men who married younger women usually don’t end up well because, in most cases, this kind of love is not sincere. Love can’t withstand the test of time, and sometimes even if it’s sincere at the beginning, the age difference will lead to many problems. When these problems arise, the relationship may not survive.
So, as an ordinary person, it’s better to marry someone of similar age, which will give you a better chance of happiness.