Blind dates are quite interesting. Once you understand human nature, you’ll realize that blind dates are filled with various tests, observations, and trials.
Let’s talk about the term “take it seriously.” It has different meanings for different people. This demonstrates the significant difference in the way people think, which goes beyond the differences between men and women.
For instance, when it comes to “taking it seriously,” there’s a major prerequisite to consider: willingness. If I’m not interested in you, I won’t care about your perception of me, and my behavior will make you feel like I’m not taking it seriously.
For example, not responding to messages or ending chats with “Oh, haha, hehe” on a regular basis.
So, you need to ensure that the other person is interested in you and has the motivation to understand you before discussing their attitude. The person asking this question clearly hasn’t grasped the basic logic of blind dates, which is mutual screening.
Many people in blind dates are like this, making demands without considering whether the other person is interested in them. These people are usually either immature and inexperienced or very self-absorbed.
Blind dates are a mutual screening game, and everyone knows it. But when it comes to real interaction, many people fail to apply these rules. There are many such rules, which is why reflecting on practice is essential. Applying theory to practice is a challenge.
Now, let’s talk about differences and the vast differences in how people think, as I often mention.
Once the issue of willingness is resolved, meaning the person is interested in spending time with you, yet you still feel that you’re not being taken seriously. This brings us to a term I often mention: cognition.
Because people have different perceptions and feelings, from a cognitive perspective, some women may believe that on a blind date, men should pay the bill, pick them up, and drop them home to be considered taking it seriously. However, men may think that since it’s a blind date, everyone is equal, and it’s just a casual chat. They’ll dress casually and if they like each other, they’ll continue, and if not, they’ll move on.
So, there’s no right or wrong here; it’s just a difference in the way two people think.
It’s not always the case that not taking it seriously means they’re not interested. Sometimes, a person may be interested, but their way of thinking may not be easily understandable by others. This is where understanding human nature comes into play, and it requires a specific analysis based on a deep understanding of human nature.
You need to know that the other person may feel that they’re taking you and the relationship seriously, but if their actions don’t meet your expectations, you’ll still feel like you’re not being taken seriously. What those expectations are and whether they’re reasonable is something you need to explore inwardly.
Because no book or answer can help you understand a person fully. It’s only through continuous communication, understanding, and accepting each other that you can truly understand the other person.
I’ve seen many girls who have faced difficulties in love. This isn’t just the problem of one person; it’s also about culture, societal opinions, family background, past love experiences, and even issues with same-sex friendships. I’ve also seen many girls whose love lives have been ruined by toxic friends.
So, my sincere advice to the girls reading this article is to reflect on the essence of love, understand human nature, and comprehend the opposite sex. These are the foundations of your love and happiness.
There’s no love or hate without reason. Only when you understand yourself can you better resolve the conflicts and frictions in a relationship.