Sometimes the little things tell you everything. Don’t think the big picture is the only thing that matters. Details are super important, especially when it comes to love.
Blake said:
“One flower, one world, one leaf, one pursuit, one song, one sigh, one life for one person.”
But in real life, breaking up and getting back together has become the norm.
Maybe you started with good intentions, but along the way, you forgot your original dreams and the person you wanted to be with forever.
Women always want to find someone who will love them for the rest of their lives. But after getting hurt in a relationship, they might become the kind of person they don’t like. For example, they might not take relationships seriously anymore.
At this point, a woman might become a “pro” at love. On the surface, she might still seem sweet and polite, but certain details will show that she’s probably been through a lot of relationships.
Here are three details that tell you if a woman is a “pro” at love:
How She Acts When She’s Intimate With You
If a woman acts super comfortable when she’s intimate with you, she’s probably been with a lot of people and done the same thing before.
Zhang Ailing said:
“The way to a woman’s heart is through her vagina.”
But I think that only applies to the first time. If someone has been hurt a lot in relationships, and they haven’t gotten what they wanted out of each relationship, they might start to lose faith in love.
The first time you do something intimate with someone, you might feel warm inside. But the second time, you might think that all men are the same, that they’re all irresponsible animals. So you might not feel anything anymore, and your actions might just become more practiced.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
“We give up our dignity, our personality, our stubbornness, all because we can’t let go of one person.”
The first time we face love, we’re willing to give up everything, to stubbornly hold on to the person we love deep down. But after we fail, we realize that sometimes taking care of ourselves is what’s best. Being a little selfish isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
We also realize that the old saying:
“If you don’t look out for yourself, you’ll be punished by Heaven.”
Makes a lot of sense, especially when it comes to love.
When you’re in your first relationship, you still try to think about the other person’s feelings. Because we have a beautiful vision of love in our hearts, especially for women.
In life, if a woman acts super comfortable when she’s intimate with you, she’s probably been through a lot of relationships. She’s a “pro” at that, and at love in general.
How She Acts When You Eat Together
When you eat with someone, if you pay attention, you can notice some of their actions. If they seem awkward, they might not have been in many relationships. They might be a little uncomfortable eating with you.
But if she’s super comfortable eating with you and makes you feel relaxed, and every step feels natural, and maybe she even pulls a little trick on you, showing her cunning side, then this person has probably been through a lot of relationships. She knows how to interact with people, so she acts this way.
So to figure someone out, you should look at how they act when you eat together. If they’re really awkward, they might never have dated before.
But if they act perfectly comfortable and know all the best places for couples to hang out alone, then they’ve probably been in more than one relationship. When you date someone like this, they’re watching your every move and thinking about it.
It’s important to pay attention to a woman’s little details when you eat together. You can learn about her personality and see if she’s been with other people before.
What She Talks About When You Chat
When you’re first starting to fall for someone, you might have a lot of thoughts, but you’re still nervous talking to them. You worry about saying the wrong thing. Sometimes you feel embarrassed when you talk about sensitive topics.
But if a woman has been through a lot of relationships, she’ll be super comfortable with you. You might even think she’s not even a woman.
For example, if you talk about sensitive topics, like things you do when you’re intimate, or other actions, or if she says things that are a little provocative, it’s a sign that she’s probably been through some tough relationships.
Remember when you first started dating, and you would blush for days after someone kissed you? You’d feel like you weren’t pure anymore.
But after you’ve been in a relationship, after you’ve done intimate things with someone, you start to think of it as normal. You think that’s what couples do, and it’s okay to talk about these things together.
If she talks about these topics openly and knows a lot of things you don’t, she’s probably been through a lot of relationships. That’s why she has so many things to talk about with you and knows so many spicy things.
Some women who have never dated might talk about a lot of stuff about guys with their friends, but they don’t dare to say anything to a guy.
But women who have dated a lot might not talk about these things with their friends. They think it’s normal. But they’re super comfortable talking about it with a guy and feel free to say whatever they want.
Zhou Xingchi said:
“Once there was a true love in front of me, but I didn’t cherish it. I only regretted it when I lost it. The most painful thing in the world is this.
If Heaven could give me a chance to do it again, I would say three words to that girl: I love you. If I had to put a time limit on this love, I hope it would be… ten thousand years.”
But a lot of people find it easy to say these words but hard to do. And people often only cherish things after they lose them.
People are more cautious about love these days, even men.