When watching TV dramas before, I often heard people in the dramas say:
“Marriage is destined.”
This statement seems to advise people that marriage is predetermined, so there’s no need to force things.
Growing up, I realized that indeed who you will marry, who you will spend your life with, is already predetermined, and the type of wife a person will marry is also predetermined.
As a famous poem goes:
“What’s fated will always come to pass, Don’t force what’s not in your grasp.”
When many people are distraught over love, they should think about their parents. Some things are not as crucial as they seem.
Love without a resolution is better off avoided.
Family Determines Everything
Around us, many people dream of marrying a wealthy person. They are rural boys without much money, good jobs, or education, dreaming such dreams.
Sometimes women dream of marrying a prince charming, a knight in shining armor. But sometimes men dream of finding a better woman.
In reality, what one imagines should match their actual situation. If your standards are too high, you may end up with nothing.
Some people have nothing but still seek an outstanding partner. This path is not viable.
Matching backgrounds are crucial. The advice from elders is reasonable. Therefore, sometimes the family decides everything.
If your family lacks money and education, you should seek a partner in a similar situation.
One shouldn’t daydream. Sometimes your family circumstances already determine your future partner.
One’s Thoughts Determine the Criteria for Choosing a Partner
One’s thoughts are nurtured from a young age. If someone grows up in a knowledgeable environment and has their own ideas, received education, then they surely possess unique charm.
Sometimes, you may meet someone with whom you instantly click, even if you were strangers before. Your past actions may align.
So, if you find a partner with different thoughts, they are probably not the one you should marry.
When you start to think for yourself, go to school, have your own space, your future partner’s qualities are already predetermined.
The saying goes: “Birds of a feather flock together.”
People with entirely different mindsets cannot peacefully coexist.
Moreover, if someone doesn’t understand you, and you don’t understand them, being together is impossible.
Therefore, when you have your own thoughts, you are destined to find a partner who is very similar to you.
One’s thoughts dictate their taste and direction in life.
When you find someone attractive, they surely possess qualities we admire, things we aspire to, and you will strive towards those qualities.
The person you marry often shares your values.
Those Who Start Behind, How Can They Marry a Wealthy Partner?
If a man starts behind, how can he marry a wealthy person? Perhaps we watch too many idol dramas, dreaming of windfalls.
However, reality brings us back to earth. If you lack education and earning potential, don’t dream beyond your means. Progress step by step to achieve your dreams.
Though marriage is like a rebirth, your foundation must be solid to succeed.
Therefore, if you start behind, find a woman who will run the race with you. Only such a woman will provide a stable life.
Smart men don’t daydream but lead a solid life. Such men will catch up and even surpass others, making up for past shortcomings.
Men who only dream and don’t work end up with nothing—no money, no house, living a pitiful life alone.
Such people look down on others, believing they have a better future, but in reality, others look down on them, as they live a life of dreams.
Regardless, Cherish Fate
In life, always cherish fate. When you meet a like-minded person, seize the opportunity. This person may not be as outstanding as you imagine, but everyone has their flaws. It’s these flaws and virtues that make them unique.
When you love someone, you embrace their virtues and naturally accept their flaws. Everything has two sides, good and bad.
If a man marries a wife and finds her lacking in some aspects compared to others’ wives, he must accommodate her. Perhaps, in the eyes of others, her flaws are her strengths.
Some fickle men always think their wives are inadequate, believing they can find a better one. But before you marry your wife, your fate with her was already sealed.
A man who cherishes his wife will have a better marriage. If a man mistreats and betrays his marriage, he will reap what he sows.
In life, cherish your fate, grasp your marriage.
When you marry someone, don’t just focus on their flaws. Sometimes fate has already decided, and we must cherish the person in front of us to go further.