When it comes to love, everyone has different opinions. But regardless of who you are dating, sincerity is essential. As Van Dijk once said, “Love is not about taking, but giving.” Some people may say they love you, but it’s only when they show it through actions that you should believe them.
There’s a saying that goes, a man who spends money on you may not love you, but a man who doesn’t spend money on you definitely doesn’t love you. Thinking about it carefully, this statement isn’t wrong. While emotions can’t be measured with money, material things can test a man’s love for you. When love meets reality, a man who treats you the same way as before truly loves you.
When a man is unwilling to spend money on you, the fundamental reason is simple—he doesn’t love you.
After graduating from college, Jane, through a friend’s introduction, met a wealthy second-generation, Jack. After getting to know each other, they officially started a relationship. Jack came from a wealthy family and lived a lavish lifestyle.
Although Jack was somewhat fickle in love, Jane believed she could change him. Initially, Jack treated her well, but less than a year into the relationship, his attitude changed significantly.
Once on Jane’s birthday, they agreed to meet at a restaurant, but she waited until 9 p.m. alone without him showing up.
Feeling upset, Jane called Jack, but he hung up on her. This incident led to a major conflict between them. Despite the length of their relationship, Jack was not truly invested in Jane. Following this event, he suggested breaking up.
Feeling wronged by his request, Jane realized Jack never intended to genuinely date her. When she confronted him, Jack bluntly admitted, “I never planned to be with you. I only got together with you because I found you easy to deceive.”
Hearing this, Jane felt uneasy and decided to end the relationship.
In real life, a man’s love for you is evident. As the saying goes, someone who loves you fears giving you too little, while someone who doesn’t love you fears you demanding too much. Only when a man deeply loves a woman, will he give his all.
If a man is unwilling to make an effort for you, it shows you are not important to him.
A man who spends money on you is generous. Material things are important to everyone. When a man is willing to spend on you, it shows your significance to him. People are drawn to material possessions, but a man who loves you will choose you without hesitation. Such a man is generous, and being with him will bring more happiness and security.
Some men are selfish in love and reluctant to give. When in love, we should keep our eyes open.
A man who is willing to spend on you truly loves you. Tagore said, “Love is the synonym of understanding and empathy.” A man who is willing to spend on you truly loves you because compared to others, they are more practical. They not only speak sweet words but also back them up with actions. True love doesn’t just talk, it acts to make you feel secure. Honesty is essential in a relationship. A man willing to sacrifice for you won’t guard against you. Everyone is selfish, but a man who truly loves you will consider your feelings.
Money can test a man. Some men may say they love you but blame you for being unreasonable when it comes to material things—simply because they don’t love you enough. While emotions can’t be measured by material possessions, true feelings can withstand material tests. If a man remains consistent despite money matters, it proves his love for you.
In reality, sweet words from a man are pleasant to hear but without actions, they are meaningless. In a relationship, a man’s worthiness isn’t about his material possessions but his willingness to sacrifice for you. Dealing with men who pretend to be poor in front of you is futile, as they don’t truly love you; they only love themselves.
Fromm once said, “Love is fundamentally giving, not receiving.” A man who truly loves you will give his all in real life, while one who doesn’t will make excuses to evade commitment.