“You need to understand the script of your own life—it’s not a sequel to your parents’, not a prequel to your children’s, and definitely not a side story of your friends’.”
Throughout life, there are always many responsibilities, and the burden on men is no lighter than that on women.
But as the head of a family, many men also like to shoulder their responsibilities. Sometimes, for the love of a woman, they will swallow all the bitterness themselves, showing only the good side to the woman.
Some men think about this even before marriage. They occasionally tell women some humorous stories. Women always think this man is very happy, but in reality, it’s not the case.
In “Ode to Joy,” Xiao Bao is always a very humorous person. Sometimes he tells Andy many stories. At first, Andy thought this person was indifferent, but as they communicated more deeply, she discovered that the other person also had many difficulties at home.
The reason the other person didn’t tell Andy about their difficulties is that they didn’t want to show all these negative aspects to her. They hoped to present a bright side to her and wanted her to be happy.
A man who is willing to continuously tell you humorous stories always wants to bring all the good things to you, including good emotions. Such a man loves you and has swallowed all the bitterness himself.
People Who Are Very Humorous on the Outside Have Suffered Inside
I remember a friend once said to me, “Whenever I’m unhappy, my boyfriend always makes me happy. I feel that my boyfriend always tells some humorous stories, so I always think he’s a person with many stories and very humorous.”
Later, when I got to know this friend’s boyfriend, I discovered that things were not good in his family. His mother sometimes gets sick, and he has to take care of her. Besides, there are various troubles in his workplace, and because he has no background or support, he has faced a lot of hardships there.
In my friend’s eyes, her boyfriend is omnipotent. No matter what happens, she always turns to him, feeling that he is always available and will shield her from anything that comes their way.
Actually, this boyfriend seems this way on the surface, but internally, he just wants to make his girlfriend happy. He deeply loves her, which is why he has taken on all the suffering.
People who are very humorous on the outside have actually experienced hardships. In the end, they have come to terms with it and, for the sake of those around them, they often tell their women some humorous stories.
Especially when a woman is unhappy, a man won’t think about discussing the causes and effects with her but will first try to cheer her up.
People who are very humorous on the outside have suffered inside, so when they encounter something, they no longer discuss the essence of the matter. These are all things they are accustomed to, and they no longer find them surprising. Their priority is to cheer up their partner.
A Person Who Is Actively Optimistic in Front of You Loves You
If someone is particularly pessimistic in front of you, always complaining and seeking your sympathy, especially after making a mistake, it shows that they are just trying to gain your sympathy. If a man does this, it proves that he lacks a sense of responsibility and doesn’t love you that much.
A person who loves you will always be positive and optimistic in front of you. They want to show you their best side and bring happiness to you.
When someone shares a lot of negative things with you, they are only focusing on expressing their own feelings, disregarding how you might feel.
Sometimes when you share something with others, you might turn them into negative people as well. A man who loves a woman would never do this. He wouldn’t turn the woman into a melancholic person.
So, if you have someone positive and optimistic in front of you, it means they love you. Their qualities will also inspire you to move forward. One day, you will thank them because they taught you to face life with a positive attitude. An optimistic person will also receive many benefits and feel the warmth in the world, including the warmth you provide.
Don’t Always Think a Humorous Person Is Heartless
Don’t always think that a humorous person is heartless. Don’t assume that someone who tells you humorous stories all the time is just trying to entertain you.
No one wants to waste their thoughts on someone they don’t love, especially a man.
When it comes to relationships, men tend to be more rational. As the saying goes, “The man pursues the woman through a layer of gauze, while the woman pursues the man across a mountain.” Growing up, I realized it should be the other way around: “The man pursues the woman through a layer of gauze, while the woman pursues the man across a mountain.”
Men and women are different. Women are easily moved. Even if they didn’t like a man initially, with time, they might start depending on him and eventually agree to be with him.
But men are not as sentimental when it comes to relationships. They might weigh the pros and cons. So, if a man doesn’t like a woman, no matter how long she pursues him, he won’t agree to be with her.
This also shows that if a man doesn’t love a woman, he wouldn’t waste so much time with her, constantly telling her humorous stories to make her happy. A man who goes out of his way to make a woman happy does so because he cares about her.
When a man only shows his humorous side to a woman, it’s because deep down, he has many scars. He has taken on everything himself, which is why the woman sees him as a positive person.
A man who often tells you humorous stories is not heartless but is doing it to make you happy. Don’t judge people solely based on appearances. Sometimes, what seems like indifference is actually a manifestation of love. In life, no one has it easy. Those who appear humorous on the surface have left their scars behind and are showing you their brighter side.